We ruin people’s lives? No. More often, the ones who reject us usually go on living their lives in peace, while we are forced to pick up the shattered remains of our souls and *try* to live our own lives.
We help each other, we accept each other, we support each other, we love each other and we allow each other to live
We live in pain, too often, and for too long. *Our* lives are ruined far more often and in far more permanent ways than those with whom we interact, and it is not we who are ruining them.